Friends can be there to enjoy the best times, and they can help us when we're feeling down. But sometimes friendships have problems. It can be hard to know what to do, sometimes we need someone to have fun with. But now and again we need a friend to support us through a tough time. Friends should never:
Sometimes friends fall out. Usually they make up again soon, but arguments can sometimes be more serious.
Falling out with friends
It's okay to not get on with some people – we can't always be friends with everyone we meet. Sometimes you might not like someone when you first meet them. But you might find that as time goes on you start to like them more. Try not to judge someone before getting to know them. If you give them a chance, you might just become friends.
We can't choose how we feel, but we can choose how we act. So if there's someone in your group who you don't like, it's important to make sure you're not mean to them. You can get along with someone and hang out in the same group as them without being really close friends.
Being bullied by friends
Sometimes in a group of friends it can be hard to tell what's 'just a joke' or 'banter' and what's bullying. Are the jokes always aimed at you, or do different people in the group get teased sometimes too?
If the jokes are always about you personally (for example, about your appearance, intelligence, sexuality, race or religion) then this is not okay. This could be bullying and your friends shouldn't be doing it. Remember there is always someone to talk to about how you feel. You can speak to your VI Form mentor, form tutor, Head of Year or Claire, our School Nurse.
Click here for help on coping with friendship issues.
Anti-bullying Week November 2020 - United against bullying
As a member of the school community, you are entitled to come to school to develop a passion for learning, experience new and exciting opportunities and to build friendships that will last a life time.
Bullying is behaviour that intentionally hurts another pupil or group physically or emotionally. It can be motivated by prejudice against particular groups, for example, on grounds of race, religion, culture, sex, gender, homophobia, special educational needs and disability or because a pupil has a different home life to someone else. It can be face-to-face, indrect or using technology (social websites, mobile phones, text messages, photographs, emails).
Take a look at these TED talks (Stand up to bullying) for inspiring words about the issue.
You can also watch this short video on 'How to Stop a Bully'.
If you experience bullying or see someone who is being made to feel uncomfortable or unwelcome in school, please report it.
The Pastoral Team are here to support you.
You may find some of the following links useful.
The Proud Trust (LGBT)